Sometime ago my wife and I were given a DVD in french about a ''Mars and Venus'' show by Paul Dewandre. We watched the DVD and found it very funny, very true and very insightful. This DVD is based on a stage show that Paul Dewandre has been running very successfully in France and french speaking countries since 2006.

Paul Dewandre based his show on the very famous Mars and Venus books and relationship couseling teachings by John Gray.

So I decided to buy the Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus book by John Gray. This book has sold more than 50 million copies and it was the "highest ranked work of nonfiction" of the 1990s. I found this book to be quite different from Paul Dewandre's show, but very true and insightful too.

What I find very interesting is that the book is based on the following idea:

Gender insight helps us to be more tolerant and forgiving when someone doesn't respond the way we think he or she should.

The above idea is the first thing that is highlighted in the Introduction to the Paperback Edition. And what I like about it is that it talks about being tolerant and forgiving. There are many blog posts on this blog about forgiveness.

Other interesting ideas hightlighted in the Introduction are:

We too easily blame our problems on our partners rather than our own approach.

Gender differences show up the most after getting involved in an intimate relationship, having children together, or when we are under a lot of stress.

Men often complain, She is over-reacting and women complain, He doesn't listen!

When we correctly interpret a situation it is never as bad as we thought.