The problem with failing is that it's often hard, humiliating, painful, depressing and so on. But maybe a good way to recover and to be in good shape to try again is forgiveness.

There is a wonderful Wikipedia page about forgiveness.

The biggest part of this page is about "Religious views", because "most world religions include teachings on the nature of forgiveness". Moreover it looks like it is a very important part of the main religions. And I think this is already very telling.

Here are some interesting quotes from the "Religious views" part of the page:

Judaism: "It is forbidden to be obdurate and not allow yourself to be appeased. On the contrary, one should be easily pacified and find it difficult to become angry. When asked by an offender for forgiveness, one should forgive with a sincere mind and a willing spirit. . . forgiveness is natural to the seed of Israel."

Christianity: "Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift."

Christianity: "If someone strikes you on one cheek, turn to him the other also."

Islam: The Qur'an describes the believers (Muslims) as those who "avoid gross sins and vice, and when angered they forgive" and says that "Although the just requital for an injustice is an equivalent retribution, those who pardon and maintain righteousness are rewarded by GOD. He does not love the unjust."

Buddhism: "If we haven’t forgiven, we keep creating an identity around our pain, and that is what is reborn. That is what suffers."

Hinduism: "There is one only defect in forgiving persons, and not another; that defect is that people take a forgiving person to be weak. That defect, however, should not be taken into consideration, for forgiveness is a great power. Forgiveness is a virtue of the weak, and an ornament of the strong. Forgiveness subdues (all) in this world; what is there that forgiveness cannot achieve? What can a wicked person do unto him who carries the sabre of forgiveness in his hand? Fire falling on the grassless ground is extinguished of itself. And unforgiving individual defiles himself with many enormities. Righteousness is the one highest good; and forgiveness is the one supreme peace; knowledge is one supreme contentment; and benevolence, one sole happiness."

Jainism: "By begging forgiveness he obtains happiness of mind; thereby he acquires a kind disposition towards all kinds of living beings; by this kind disposition he obtains purity of character and freedom from fear."

On the Wikipedia page there are 2 "Spiritual views" too.

The first one is about Ho'oponopono, which is an ancient Polynesian reconciliation and forgiveness practice:

In many Polynesian cultures, it was believed that a person’s errors (called hara or hala) caused illness. Some believed error angered the gods, others that it attracted malevolent gods, and still others believed the guilt caused by error made one sick. “In most cases, however, specific ‘untie-error’ rites could be performed to atone for such errors and thereby diminish one’s accumulation of them.”

Among the islands of Vanuatu in the South Pacific, people believe that illness usually is caused by sexual misconduct or anger. “If you are angry for two or three days, sickness will come,” said one local man. The therapy that counters this sickness is confession. The patient, or a family member, may confess. If no one confesses an error, the patient may die. The Vanuatu people believe that secrecy is what gives power to the illness. When the error is confessed, it no longer has power over the person.

This is interesting because my previous "Being true to oneself" blog post is in part about people regretting errors in the way they interacted with others and sometimes becoming sick as a result.

I think that such practices can perhaps explain why the Polynesian culture and way of life is so heavenly. I mean saying to each other, as part of the Ho'oponopono practice, things like: “I'm sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you.” can only help :-)

The other spiritual view is about A Course in Miracles:

Forgiveness, as the means to remembering God, is the fundamental message of A Course in Miracles (ACIM). ACIM teaches that forgiveness is not simply the letting go of resentment, but rather forgiveness is awakening to eternal “vision” and remembering that there is nothing “real” (eternal) to resent.

Forgiveness removes the blocks to seeing the eternal goodness in, and unity and equality with, one’s brother. Forgiveness removes the fog obscuring the reflection of God within others, which leads to the same sight within ourselves. Ultimately, forgiveness opens the experience that whatever is perceived to have been done in time has had no effect upon eternal oneness. All remain as God created, united in God’s eternal love — and this is God’s will.

"Forgiveness recognizes what you thought your brother did to you has not occurred. It does not pardon sins and make them real. It sees there was no sin. And in that view are all your sins forgiven. What is sin, except a false idea about God's Son? Forgiveness merely sees its falsity, and therefore lets it go. What then is free to take its place is now the Will of God."